Thankfulness

We’ve come once again to the season of Thanksgiving—a time for family gatherings, good food, laughter, fun, and love. For many, it’s a time to celebrate and reflect on the blessings we’ve received throughout the year.

Taking this time to pause and truly think about what we’re thankful for is meaningful. Yet often, the holiday becomes just another day to enjoy turkey, dressing, and all the trimmings. We sometimes forget how many mornings we were blessed to wake up this year, how many breaths we were given, how many dangers we were spared. We made it home safely each day—whether driving, walking, or taking public transportation. We survived sickness, avoided accidents, overcame financial setbacks, kept a roof over our heads, and saw our children and families protected and provided for. All of it—every moment—was by grace and goodness.

But there are also those for whom this year didn’t go as smoothly. If things didn’t work out the way you hoped, as long as you are alive and have breath, there is still much to be thankful for. “The Lord will fight for you; you need only be still” (Exodus 14:14). This means don’t worry, don’t exhaust yourself trying to figure everything out, and don’t dwell on what went wrong. Even in the hardest moments, the battle is not yours alone.

People who are struggling often feel frustrated when told they should still be thankful. What they may not realize is that the person offering that encouragement likely had to go through something themselves. They learned to stand back up—sometimes many times—before they understood the truth of gratitude. So for those who recognize their blessings, and for those who are still searching for them, know this: God is with us and in control, no matter what things look like. “For we walk by faith, not by sight” (2 Corinthians 5:7). He is always working behind the scenes, fighting battles we cannot see. “There is no searching His understanding” (Isaiah 40:28). His ways are not our ways, but His ways are always better—even when we don’t understand.

So in the meantime, we can continue to be thankful—not only at Thanksgiving but every day. Gratitude opens the door for God to move on our behalf.

Be thankful this Thanksgiving, and every day forward in the coming years.

Happy Thanksgiving

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The Gift of Correction

“The Lord corrects those He loves, just as a father delights in his child.” — Proverbs 3:12

Correction doesn’t always feel like a gift at first. In fact, it can sting, stir up defensiveness, or make us want to shut down. Recently, I found myself in a conversation where it was pointed out that I wasn’t seeing something clearly in my life. My initial reaction was to grow quiet, wrestling inside with whether there was truth to what I was hearing. Admitting it wasn’t easy. I wanted to defend myself, make excuses, or brush it off altogether. Yet as uncomfortable as it was, I knew deep down this was something I needed to receive, accept, and take responsibility for.

In my case, the correction was about setting boundaries. I had heard this message in different ways before but had not taken it seriously. This conversation served as confirmation that it was time to truly address it.

As I thought about it further, I realized how often I’ve seen others resist correction. Instead of pausing to consider whether there’s any truth to it, many respond with defensiveness, excuses, denial, or even anger. I’ve seen it in families, in friendships, and especially on social media—people so determined to be “right” that they reject correction altogether. Sometimes it’s treated as an offense, as though the very act of bringing something up is crossing a line. Rarely do we stop and ask ourselves if the correction is valid or being offered in love.

But what if we did? What if accepting correction could become the starting point of healing? Imagine relationships that could experience deeper communication, less confusion, and more honesty. Imagine the relief of no longer walking on eggshells to protect someone’s fragile ego and eliminate resentment. Acceptance has the power to free us from denial and open the door to growth.

Scripture reminds us: “My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline, and do not resent his rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.” (Proverbs 3:11–12)

Correction, when given in kindness, is not meant to wound us but to guide us. It may reveal blind spots we didn’t realize we had or confirm what we’ve long ignored. It isn’t always comfortable, but when we choose to receive it, correction becomes a gift—an opportunity for growth, healing, and transformation. Just as God corrects those He loves, we can embrace correction as a sign of love and care, a reminder that we are not left to stay the same but invited to become better.

Correction is God’s way of shaping us into who He created us to be.”

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The Ripple effect of kindness

Kindness is powerful, yet so often misunderstood. Sometimes we think it means letting people walk all over us, or that it’s weak to respond with grace when someone is rude. But the truth is, as God continually shows us grace, we are called to extend that same grace to others.

When I’m tempted to react harshly, I stop and ask myself: What might this person be going through? The driver who cuts me off, the cashier who snaps at me, or the customer service rep who sounds irritated—any of them could be carrying unseen burdens. They may be grieving, stressed about finances, facing illness, preparing for an important exam, enduring abuse, or silently battling depression. We rarely consider those possibilities in the heat of the moment because we’re too busy feeling offended.

But what if we shifted our perspective? Instead of reacting with anger, what if we prayed for them? What if we offered a smile, a kind word, or simply patience? That single act of kindness could be exactly what they need to feel seen, valued, and loved. Sometimes, it might even be life-saving.

Jesus reminds us in Matthew 5:13:
“You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men.”

We are called to flavor the world with God’s love. As the saying goes, hurting people hurt people. But when we respond with compassion, we can break that cycle. Even if we don’t see the impact right away, we are planting seeds—seeds of hope, healing, and faith.

At the end of the day, kindness costs us nothing, but it can change everything for someone else.

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When It’s Not Okay to Be “Okay”

We all have days when we are not okay. Yet, when someone asks how we’re doing, our automatic response is often, “I’m fine.” Inside, however, we may feel like we’re about to fall apart—on the verge of a breakdown, wanting to scream, run away, or even disappear.

As people—and especially as Christians—we often feel pressure to always appear okay. We may quote a Bible verse instead of admitting our true feelings, believing that honesty about our struggles is a sign of weakness or lack of faith. Because of this, we keep things bottled up, suffocating under the weight of our emotions rather than saying, “I’m exhausted. I’m stressed. I’m overwhelmed. I’m struggling.”

But hiding how we feel does us a disservice. When we open up, we give others the chance to pray for us, support us, and simply empathize with our pain.

The truth is, being vulnerable is not weakness—it’s human. God knows we will face moments when we feel this way. That’s why Jesus says in Matthew 11:28, “Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” We are not alone in our struggles. Others have felt the same way, and more importantly, God invites us to bring Him our burdens. When we do, He gives us rest, compassion, and understanding.

There is no judgment in admitting we’re not okay. The danger lies in staying there. Scripture reminds us in Psalms 30:5, “Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.” That morning may take longer to arrive for some than for others, but with God’s help, it will come.

Being “not okay” can even be a signal to pause and evaluate where we may be unbalanced in life:

  • Am I focusing on my circumstances instead of what God says about them?
  • Am I truly resting—not just sleeping, but making time to be still and quiet?
  • Am I letting stress or people control my peace?
  • Am I trying to fix everything myself instead of trusting God’s timing?
  • Am I speaking life, or am I feeding negativity with my words?
  • Am I learning from my situation, or only focusing on the problem?
  • Am I caring for my body—through healthy eating, exercise, and proper rest?

We know ourselves better than anyone—except God. And sometimes, admitting that we’re not okay is the first step toward healing, balance, and restoration.

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“Be Still: God’s Invitation to Rest”

Psalm 46:10; Isaiah 30:15; Exodus 14:14; Hebrews 13:5

The Sign in the Store That Stopped Me

I was out shopping the other day, moving quickly through the aisles, when a picture caught my eye: “Be still and know that I am God.” I walked past it—but couldn’t shake it. It felt like the Holy Spirit whispering, You’re going to need this reminder. Often. So I turned around and bought it.

That simple sign exposed something deep in me. I started remembering all the times I did not obey God’s invitation to be still. Instead, I pushed, strategized, worried, lost sleep, and tried to fix things in my own strength. And when my effort didn’t work, I just worried harder—sometimes even after praying, and sometimes without praying at all. No surprise: I wore myself out.

When Prayer Turns Into Panic

Have you ever prayed and then, when nothing changed right away, assumed God was taking too long—or maybe not going to answer at all? We shift from prayer to anxiety, from anxiety to frustration, and sometimes even into anger. In that swirl, we forget God’s promises and start imagining worst‑case outcomes instead of God’s best.

Scripture reminds us: God will never leave us or forsake us (Hebrews 13:5). While we are “waiting on God,” it’s often true that God is waiting on us—to trust Him, to slow down, to stop trying to muscle through what only He can do. Our part is to bring what we can do, and then release what we cannot to the One who sees the whole picture.

Why Stillness Matters

I’m not saying being still is easy. It isn’t. Everything in our culture rewards hustling, fixing, managing, controlling. But striving without surrender rarely speeds things up; more often, it slows what God is forming in us. Stillness is not passivity—it’s active trust.

God is sovereign. He sees what we cannot. Whatever the situation is—He’s got it. Our rest is found in remembering who is in control.

“In quietness and trust shall be your strength.” (Isaiah 30:15)

We may feel like quietness can’t help us, but anxiety and worry certainly don’t.

“The LORD will fight for you; you need only be still.” (Exodus 14:14)

What Does It Mean to “Be Still”?

Being still is more than sitting in silence. It’s a posture: heart surrendered, mind anchored, spirit attentive. Here are some practical ways to practice it.

1. Pause & Breathe Prayer

When worry spikes, stop and take a slow breath. Pray, “Lord, I know You are God. I place this (name it) in Your hands.”

2. Anchor in Scripture

Keep verses where you’ll see them—mirrors, phone lock screen, dashboard, that new wall art you felt led to buy. Let God’s Word interrupt anxious thoughts.

  • Psalm 46:10 – “Be still, and know that I am God.”
  • Isaiah 30:15 – “In quietness and trust shall be your strength.”
  • Exodus 14:14 – “The LORD will fight for you; you need only be still.”
  • Hebrews 13:5 – “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”

3. Do What You Can—Release What You Can’t

Make two columns: My Part and God’s Part. Act faithfully on what is yours; pray and release what is His. Revisit the list when anxiety returns.

4. Schedule Stillness

Set aside a daily or weekly time to be with God: read, pray, journal, sit in silence, listen. Consistency trains your heart to settle more quickly when storms come.

5. Ask for Help

Stillness grows in community. Ask a friend to pray with you, check in, or remind you of God’s promises when you start to spiral.

When Life Hurts

Whatever you’re facing—sickness, loss, financial struggle, work pressures, family stress—God invites you to stillness in Him. Stillness does not deny the reality of pain; it anchors us in the greater reality of God’s presence and power.

So today, if you feel overwhelmed, remember that sign in the store—and the God who prompted me to turn around. He’s saying the same to you: Be still. Let Me be God.

A Simple Prayer

Lord, You are God and I am not. I lay down my need to fix what I cannot fix. Teach me to be still, to trust Your timing, and to rest in Your presence. Fight for me where I cannot fight for myself. Thank You that You will never leave me or forsake me. Amen.

What helps you stay still when life feels out of control? I’d love to hear your practices and verses in the comments.

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Honoring Fathers – A Father’s Day Reflection

Happy Father’s Day

Proverbs 20:7
“The righteous man walks in his integrity; his children are blessed after him.”

Today, we thank God for all the fathers who have shown up for their children—regardless of the circumstances.

To the fathers who have been present—whether married or not—thank you.
To the fathers who take responsibility, who raise their children with love, strength, and presence—thank you.
To the fathers who lead by example—showing their sons how to be men of honor, how to treat women with respect, and showing their daughters what to look for in a good man—thank you.

To the fathers who stepped into the lives of children who weren’t biologically theirs—stepfathers, mentors, teachers, coaches, pastors—your impact is immeasurable.
To the fathers breaking generational cycles of absence, rewriting the legacy for their families—thank you.
To the fathers who do what needs to be done without placing blame, even when it means raising their children alone—thank you.
To the single fathers grieving the loss of their children’s mother—our hearts are with you.

Thank God for you all. You are seen. You are appreciated. You are vital.

Ephesians 6:4
“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”

We also pray for the fathers who were absent.

To the fathers who placed blame instead of taking responsibility—there’s still room for reflection and change.
To those who walked away because the woman they conceived with wasn’t who they imagined as the mother of their child—your child still needed you.
To the fathers who accused the mother of trapping them, not realizing they made that choice too—we pray for your awakening.
To the fathers who avoided child support or mistook financial responsibility as optional—we pray you come to understand the weight and worth of your role. To the fathers wounded by trauma, unsure how to be present—we pray you find healing.

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When Apologies Mean Nothing: Breaking the Cycle of Blame

Have you ever been in a situation where you keep experiencing the same behavior from someone? Where they are sorry after the incident, yet not taking any responsibility for their actions, and continuously blaming you, or someone else for their behavior. Well an apology is worthless and not an apology at all without changed behavior.

For some, it could be coming from a spouse or significant other, who’s verbally or physically abusive and is always sorry after the fact, or a family member or friend, or even a boss that crosses the line over and over again, and is always seriously sorry after the fact, and just makes excuses wanting you to just get over it and to act as if nothing ever happened. Expecting you to accept their apology and move on.

when sometimes all the other person needs to heal is for them to recognize and admit and change thier behavior, but we have to also realize that it may not be in them to do so.

They may continue to blame you or anything else for thier behavior, to blame there past, or what they’ve been through, using that as an excuse or a scapegoat for their behavior, while taking no responsibility whatsoever for their own actions.

Although yes we are supposed to forgive them, it doesn’t mean that we have to continue to put up with the behavior, and be made to feel as if we are overreacting, and that it’s all in our head, or that were the problem. I believe you would call this a form of gaslighting, which is just a start in explaining this behavior and the situation we may find ourselves in.

After a while you may start to think that somehow it was your fault, and try to figure out what you may have done to bring on this type of behavior, when the truth of the matter is, we are not responsible for another person’s actions or reactions only they are. The first step in changing thier behavior is for them to realize that there is a problem.

Sometimes we deal with the behavior for years, walking on egg shells, trying to keep the peace and saying the wrong thing to avoid yet another confrontation, It is not our responsibility to try and change them, It will take an act of God, therapy and a total reflection and realization on the other persons part to do that. These situations can cause a lot of mental distress so protecting our peace, our health and mental wellbeing, and not blaming ourselves is crucial.

If there is a part we need to take responsibility for by all means do that, then forgive yourself, take care of yourself and first and foremost forgive and pray for them, pray for yourself and ask God for help and guidance to get through it, or in some cases the strength to remove yourself from the situation all together.

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Unlocking Emotions: The Power of Writing for Wellness

Hi,
My name is Norma, welcome to my page

There are times in life when we go through things that we don’t feel like we can share with anyone. Maybe for some it’s out of fear of being misunderstood, or being seen as weak, or just not being supported.

There were many times as I child where I would just write to release my thoughts, to get things off my chest, to calm myself when dealing with unpleasant situations. I would always keep my writings to myself, it was a form of therapy, a form of release sort of speak..

I started this blog in hopes to help someone that may need to release something that may be causing pain, holding them back or preventing them from healing. In writing things down even as I child, my love of writing, and putting pen to paper has helped me throughout the years, to process thoughts, to put things into perspective, to heal, to release, to vent and to cope, all while creating a space for change.

Although this may not be for everyone, I believe that God has given us all gifts and talents, even if we don’t always realize what they are or how we are meant to use them.

What are your thoughts?

How have some of you found ways to cope in difficult situations?

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Belief vs. Unbelief: The Impact on Our Lives

They say that seeing is believing, or I’ll believe it when I see it, but with God believing is seeing (Hebrews 11:1 Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen) so the question is what do we truly believe? Do we only believe when our prayers are answered in the way and time frame that we want? Or are we trusting God to be God and answer them in the way that is best for us.

I wonder how much of our beliefs shape and form the trajectory of our lives? We can say we believe in many things, but our words and actions can tell an entirely different story, I wonder how much of what we do, or do not believe, leads us to try to solve and handle our own problems instead of relying on God?  How much of what we do believe causes us to believe other people over God. Or our circumstances over God.

If we truly believe in something but we don’t act accordingly, as if we do believe, by speaking what we believe in, not worrying and instead resorting to complaining starting to fear and becoming impatient, when something we’re believing for doesn’t happen on our timeline, then are we truly believing?

 For some it may be believing in things in the world to change or be different or finding that wife or husband or our soulmate, or healing or starting a business, or becoming financially stable, but no matter what we’re believing for do we really believe, if we don’t believe enough to wait for it?

Do we continue to believe when things are getting worse instead of better? Or when it looks like it’s not going to happen? Do we continue to believe when the healing is not happening fast enough, or when we’ve lost a loved one? Do we continue to believe God is still a good God in those type of circumstances? Do we believe or tend to question everything? Do we believe when things are difficult and it seems like everything is going wrong, or do we believe that things should not have happened in a certain way? Or should not have happened to us at all.

Often times we question the unfairness in the things that we go through, taking us further into unbelief, and sometimes causing us to give up or to believe that things will truly work out for our good.

What we fail to understand, is our unbelief is what causes our prayers to sometimes be stalled, we say we believe but act and talk in a way that says we truly don’t. (Hebrews 11:6 says without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those that earnestly seek him)

So, while we’re waiting on God, he’s waiting on us to get in line with the word of God. There often may be times in our lives when things do not make sense and seem so unfair, and we may need to go through the process of questioning God as to why something may have happened the way it did, and asking God to help us through it, but even in those times we must get back to our belief in God, believing that God is always a good God, even when we don’t understand.

So in the best as well as the worst of times believe God, believe that he is a God that does not lie (Numbers 23.19) believe that he answers our prayers not always in the way that we want but in the ways that are best for us, believe that he will help us through even in times when we are having trouble believing, Believe that God is the same yesterday today and forever (Hebrews 13:8)

There may come a time in all of our lives when we stop believing, just one of the times for me, was when my mother died early on in life, I could not understand or believe that a God that loved me could let my mother die, and it took me a while to believe that God is still good even when we can’t make sense of things that we don’t understand. For some of you it may be losing a loved one, it may be and illness, it may be a financial problem or a disaster that has happened, but whatever it is, we can still believe that God is good.

Just remember that believing is seeing, not the other way around.

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Breaking Generational Curses Through Honest Conversations

I was thinking a lot about healing recently, not only physical healing but emotional healing as well. The lack of emotional healing that can result in physical illness.

I thought of all the ways that we oftentimes keep things inside, pushing it to the back of our minds in hopes that it will somehow just magically go away. We may have heard others give their testimony, and feel like I could never do that, but I wonder what type of healing we could experience if we reveal the things that have kept us bound for so long, and how many people could be helped that may have been through the same or similar things, or how many people could we have saved from the so called fate, if we would have warned them what we had experienced, for some it may be any number of things such as alcohol or drug addiction that runs in the family, Or it may be the incest or molestation that was experienced, or mental or physical abuse or even depression.

How many generational curses could we have prevented from continuing if we would have warned the next generation about the things that our grandparents, parents, siblings, aunts uncles or any other family members had suffered through.

Often families want to keep it behind closed doors, as the saying goes, what happens in this house stays in this house, which is the craziest thing ever, and is only meant to spare them from embarrassment, while all along causing it to fester while keeping it hidden and unknown, and carrying it into every relationship we encounter after.

We hope that not talking about what we’ve or some other family members have been through will save us from embarrassment and shame, while it only causes things to remain as they are.

For we cannot heal what we will not reveal, for some it may mean revealing it to yourself first as a start, and no we cannot go around talking to and everyone, we do have to be selective and choose wisely who we can confide in, and if it is something that will save the next person from abuse, tell it, let it all out because not talking about it will cause the  generational curse to continue.

I’m not saying it will be easy, and you may not get the support you deserve, but keeping silent will hurt you more than it will to reveal it and may break the cycle and help someone else from going through it or help someone who has gone through it to not feel so alone in it.

So often people feel as if they must have done something wrong, or that they must have deserved it, when the truth of the matter is the same thing that was done to you was most likely done to them and their silence caused them to be complicit for the behavior to continue on.

So just remember, you can’t heal what you don’t reveal… For the bible says in John 8:32 And ye shall know the truth and the truth will set you free.

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